Saturday, December 29, 2012


Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth in human relationship in giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don't multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness. This however does not mean that the wrong doer is to take it lightly and think that it is easier to get forgiveness than permission in doing wrong.

Holding grudges will consume your emotional energy...if you let it.  Holding grudges uses a lot of emotional energy. And, when your emotional energy is tied up in a grudge, it holds you in the past. Grudges hold you hostage and it's not until you forgive that your energy can be restored. Think of forgiveness as something you do for yourself. Think of it as something that makes you stronger, not weaker. The physical feeling of relief and the energy restored will be well worth it. When you forgive someone, you suddenly feel lighter....for the past is heavy, and when you let go of it, you're weightless.

Forgiveness is the only way to heal your emotional wounds. Forgive those who hurt you no matter what they've done because you do not want to hurt yourself every time you remember what they did. When you can touch a wound and it doesn't hurt, then you know you have truly forgiven.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

FORGIVENESS is not something we do for other people. We do it for ourselves.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Short Fuse and Temper

Do you have a short fuse and temper? Consider going for anger management programs as an important option before you ruin your relationships with others beyond repair.

Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself. 

Think about the good things that person has done for you. What bad have you done to them? Chances are, you've done at least something to them to make them resentful towards you. Make sure you have a clear conscience - then speak.

Temper can ruin anybody's life. When your eyes are opened it might be too late, so try to control your anger and follow a few simple anger management tips. It will definitely get you away from tension.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Just my thoughts today after morning prayer.

Stress and Depression are so common these days. In fact, everyone goes through it at some point in their life. Some of us go through mild attacks and some of us have it really bad. Is it the processed food we eat, the fast paced life we lead, the demands put on us in our daily lives both at work and home, bad life circumstances or a combination of all of the above?

The pharmaceutical companies are making a bomb from the sale of anti depressants and sleeping pills. Some Doctors and councillors tell us to share, write down or talk about our problems to release the heavy burden from our hearts, minds and body because it can be very lethal to bottle up everything. Many ignorant people however think its a cry for attention when someone tries to release their emotional pain through words written, or spoken. Truth be told, most times the ones going through this would rather suffer in silence till they slowly rot inside, completely break or bounce back like nothing ever happened all on their own because they feel no one really wants to know or care and then there is also that thing called pride and the fear of SHAME. They feel it's No point in making a fool of themselves. They know No one can really help them....only God and they themselves can change how they feel. It's easily said than done though...sometimes we lack happy hormones greatly, sometimes emotional abuse and/or damage is deep and extreme, most times a person feels like they are all alone in this world even though they are surrounded by people all the time.

Blessed are those with family and friends that genuinely care and UNDERSTAND, but many do not have this blessing. Everyone only wants to see the surface and superficialities and do not care about what's really happening on the inside. The tough survive, the weak break and then there are the ones who are borderline.... struggling and fighting to remain sane, actually appearing strong on the outside but suffering so much on the inside.

There should be more therapy groups formed to bring such people together to share and to release their mental and emotional pains. Only people who undergo the same can actually understand. Someone who listens and genuinely understands can be such great help. The bonding of these human beings on a regular basis can create and bring back a sense of worth and peace.

I am wondering if there are such groups in Malaysia and where. There are times I feel like I need to bond with such people ...people with no hidden agendas, no judgment, no gossip....just pure of heart and genuine transparency with the need to share and feel a sense of belonging, a sense of worth and most of all...a sense of PEACE! Are you transparent and honest with yourself to admit that you are this person at times too or are you the one who is too ashamed to admit that you too have experienced this ugly disease of the 21st century? :)

By Nur Diyanah Magness

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