Friday, January 11, 2013

Some Things Do Last.

They say many things in life never last, but the truth is, you never lose these things until you let them. Life is about choices, hanging on, holding back and letting go. THINGS DO LAST. Only if you let them, and they let you.

"Some things don't last forever, but some things do. Like a good song, or a good book, or a good memory you can take out and unfold in your darkest times, pressing down on the corners and peering in close, hoping you still recognize the person you see there."-- Sarah DessenThis Lullaby

Thursday, January 10, 2013


A heart touching  Story.
(author unknown).

This story is widely reprinted on the Internet.
I have not found a source for it yet.

I am a mother of three (ages 14,12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree. The last class I had to take was Sociology. The teacher was absolutely inspiring with the qualities that I wish every human being had been graced with. Her last project of the term was called "Smile." The class was asked to go out and smile at three people and document their reaction. I am a very friendly person and always smile at everyone and say, hello, I thought, this would be a piece of cake literally.

Soon after we were assigned the project, my husband, youngest son, and I went out to McDonalds, one crisp March morning. It was just our way of sharing special playtime with our son. We were standing in line, waiting to be served, when all of a sudden everyone around us began to back away, and then even my husband did. I did not move an overwhelming feeling of panic welled up inside of me as I turned to see why they had moved. As I turned around I smelled a horrible "dirty body" smell... and there standing behind me were two poor homeless men. 

As I looked down at the short gentleman, close to me, he was "smiling". His beautiful sky blue eyes were full of God's Light as he searched for acceptance. He said, "Good day" as he counted the few coins he had been clutching. The second man fumbled with his hands as he stood behind his friend. I realized the second man was mentally deficient and the blue eyed gentle man was his salvation. I held my tears.... as I stood there with them. 

The young lady at the counter asked him what they wanted. He said, "Coffee is all, Miss" because that was all they could afford. (To sit in the restaurant and warm up, they had to buy something...he just wanted to be warm). Then I really felt it... the compulsion was so great I almost reached out and embraced the little man with his blue eyes. That is when I noticed all eyes in the restaurant were set on me...judging my every action. I smiled and asked the young lady behind the counter to give me two more breakfast meals on a separate tray. I then walked around the corner to the table that the men had chosen as a resting spot. I set the tray on their table then I laid my hand on the blue eyed gentleman's cold hand. He looked up at me, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Thank you." I leaned over, began to pat his hand and said, "I did not do this for you...God is here working through me to give you hope." 

I started to cry as I walked away to join my husband and son. When I sat down my husband smiled at me and said, "That is why God gave you to me honey.... to give me hope." We held hands for a moment and at that time we knew that only because of the Grace that we had been given that we were able to give. 

We are not church goers but we are believers. That day showed me the pure Light of God's sweet love. I returned to college, on the last evening of class, with this story in hand. I turned in "my project" and the instructor read it.... then she looked up at me and said, "Can I share this?" I slowly nodded as she got the attention of the class. She began to read and that is when I knew that we, as human beings and being part of God, share this need to heal people and be healed. In my own way I had touched the people at McDonalds, my husband, son, instructor, and every soul that shared the classroom on the last night I spent as a college student. 

I graduated with one of the biggest lessons I would ever learn…. UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE. Much love And compassion sent to each and every person who may read this learn how to LOVE PEOPLE AND USE THINGS - NOT LOVE THINGS AND USE PEOPLE.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

"Tough times don't last but tough people do."

We have to constantly remind ourselves of this to keep strong...but it's really not easy when things just remain down for such a long time. My last blog post said that Life gives us negatives and never removes it until the lesson in it is learned....but sometimes we are unable to identify what the lesson is let alone be able to overcome the negative. Do we keep going in circles and remain in that black hole indefinitely till we figure it out on our own... or do we share it with a loved one or friend to open our minds to other possibilities which we are unable to come up with on our own.....or do we step on our pride and denial that we do need professional help and to seek it before we fall deeper to only destroy everything around us as well...including whatever shreds of positives that are left in our lives. ?

Is it worth it to brood on what we don't have to only destroy and kill what we already do have? Many of us do not realise that we neglect the good which is already in our lives because we are so busy dwelling in the past or chasing the future. Be grateful for what you have NOW….and nurture it as much as possible if you want a fulfilling and happy life. 

Don't expect to get anything positive or nurturing from loved ones when you yourself do not give it. How can you expect anyone to understand your needs when you do not care to make an effort to understand their needs as well? In the giving only are we able to undergo the process of receiving. 

--- Nur Diyanah Magness

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Say NO to Negative Thinking.

Every Negative thought is a message sent from Life to Teach you a Lesson. You will continue having the Negative thought until you Learn the Lesson it has to Teach. Negative thoughts are there for a reason, and you have to find the root of the cause. Discover why it is there. 

I did a lot of research on this because I had been in this ugly destructive cycle  not too long ago. The worst is over....but sometimes there are bouts of it trying to creep back into my life. It is a constant struggle but I strive to pull myself back into positive mode again. It helps when you have positive people around you. 

Negative thoughts will destroy our lives. When a negative thought manages to  creep into your mind, Don’t say it....Don’t think it....Don’t write it..Don’t infer it.  Don’t agree with it.  It’s always wrong, and never right.  It never makes your life better, and always makes it worse. Check the negative spin cycle below...of how destructive it can be.


Every negative thought that enters your mind is a message sent from life to teach you a lesson.  You will continue having the negative thought until you learn the lesson.  The sooner you learn it, the sooner it will no longer be a problem and go away. When life sends you a negative thought, you must discover the lesson it has to teach.  Implicit in that negative thought is a positive action you are supposed to take. When a negative thought enters your mind, you immediately must do four things.

First, learn the lesson it has to teach.

Second, take a positive action based on what the negative thought has taught you.

Third, think of two positive thoughts to displace the negativity from your mind.

Fourth, use your Power Graphics to push your mind in a positive direction.

These four steps are easy to perform, and they give you an effective strategy to deal with the negative thoughts blowing through your mind.

Oh yes...don't forget to always smile. :) A smile costs's contagious and it is the very first thing to do to help you to be in a positive frame of mind and to block negative thoughts. A smile radiates positive vibes which in turn catches on to others and somehow, the universe bounces it back onto us to bring positive into our lives. 

It's time to forget your negative past and to reach forward into a positive future. HAPPY 2013 EVERYONE :)

Great information and resource of positive thinking and how to avoid depression from Dr. Dave :
zero tolerance to negative thinking.

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